Kids Need to Serve

by DiscipleBlog Administrator What Kids Need

The Situation: Adults wonder, “Why are many children spoiled?” Children are selfish by nature. They enjoy the limelight. They like to receive gifts. They have learned to expect much from others. Children become so accustomed to having their needs met that they rarely think about serving others.

The Solution: Becoming a Christian is a selfish act. We need forgiveness-and Jesus Christ is the only source. Christian conduct, however, ought to reflect selflessness. Christians live as Christ lived-for others. We can freely give because Jesus has promised to meet our every need. In addition, the Holy Spirit empowers us and distributes spiritual gifts for us to serve others. Read the rest of this entry »

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Kids Need Balance

by DiscipleBlog Administrator What Kids Need

Kids Need BalanceThe Situation: The adage, “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy” is true! Similarly, “All play and no work makes Jill a lazy girl.” Some children receive an overdose of sports, TV, school, video games, or even church. Few kids experience the energizing vitality that takes place when their minds, hearts, and bodies are stretched to reach their full potential.

The Solution: Achieving balance is the key to a child’s overall development. Even as a child, Jesus kept things in balance. One simple Bible verse summarizes His childhood: He grew intellectually, physically, spiritually, and socially (Luke 2:52). Balanced discipleship links three dimensions—growth in knowledge, in character, and in conduct. Children must embrace all three.

What You Can Do: These three pursuits will help you build balanced, lifelong disciples of Jesus Christ: 1) Know God intimately—help your child develop a reservoir of Bible knowledge. 2) Love God passionately—practice displaying Christlike character in every area of life. 3) Serve God selflessly—demonstrate faithful conduct that honors God and helps people.

(Luke 2:52; Mark 12:30-31)

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Why Kids Need “Sequenced” Discipleship

by Mark Steiner Curriculum, Discipleship, What Kids Need

Sir Isaac Newton (English physicist, mathematician, astronomer, natural philosopher, alchemist. and theologian) was one of the most brilliant men who ever lived. He told a fellow scientist who wondered how Newton was able to accomplish so much, “If I have seen further, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.”

Children, at every point in their development, stand on the shoulders of their former selves. Kids cannot write a meaningful essay until they are able to create a coherent paragraph; they cannot write a strong paragraph if they have not learned basic grammar and word meanings. Similarly, children cannot solve differential equations until they have mastered algebra; they do not understand algebra unless they first grasp arithmetic.

This principle is true in music, art, and other academic disciplines as well—but it is also valid in spiritual endeavors. If the foundation is weak, efforts to build will be fraught with problems. Jesus concludes His Sermon on the Mount with a graphic illustration of this same principle (Matthew 7:24-27).

Studies in cognitive psychology and language acquisition conclusively demonstrate that children are much more likely to retain new learning (transferring it from short-term to long-term memory) if a memory framework already exists. Sequential, cumulative, or incremental learning ensures that children will build a foundation that is essential to later growth. It also ensures that they will process new material in the way that their brains are set up to learn—thus adding to existing memory.

In a nutshell, that is why discipleship training must be sequential. Lifelong disciples of Jesus Christ are built incrementally. Effective discipleship interweaves three dimensions—knowledge + character + conduct. The Bible illumines a finite number of “must know” topics to understand, “must be” traits to exhibit, and “must do” activities to experience. When a child’s developmental process includes that knowledge, those traits, and those experiences, we can be reasonably assured that we have done our part to build a lifelong disciple of Jesus Christ.

Why do children need “sequenced” discipleship? Knowledge builds on knowledge. Character builds on character. Conduct builds on conduct. Kids who miss out on foundational aspects of their spiritual development spend much of their lives “wandering in the wilderness.” But children who receive a sequential Christian education enjoy the “land of milk and honey.” They withstand harsh winds and tossing waves (Ephesians 4:14-16). They remain firm, standing on the shoulders of spiritual giants who have gone before them (Hebrews 12:1-2).

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T-i-m-e: Every kid’s love language. (part 2)

by Jen Galley Discipleship, Questions, To Think About, What Kids Need

The story continues… (from part 1)

Within two days, I was able to catch up with the girl that I hadn’t had time for. I was so busy “ministering” to all of the kids that I didn’t have time to actually “reach” one child.

I started the conversation by saying, “I’m so sorry that I didn’t connect with you on Wednesday. What you are thinking about is very important to me. Is there any chance that you still remember the question that you wanted to ask me?”

She was wide-eyed. “I can’t believe you remembered, she said. That was like, DAYS ago.” (It was only 2 days, but still she was glad that I remembered.)

I was prepared for any type of question she might ask from “What kind of toothpaste do you use?” to “Can we sing a different song next week?”)

“Oh, ya. She continued. Um, I know that Jesus died on the cross to save us, but WHY is that what God (the Father) wanted him to do? Why was that the price he had to pay?”

WOW! I was so glad that I didn’t miss this opportunity to share this with her.

I shared the scripture with her and followed up with a letter so that she could look it up for herself.

Here are my questions:

1) Are you willing to admit to the kids in your ministry that you have messed up? That you’ve missed a very important chance to connect with them?

2) If we (our ministry teams) had the ability to follow up like this with every child in our ministries, what would disipleship look like in our churches? How would this affect the “Church” at large?

3) Do you agree with the following statement: “When it comes to discipleship, relationship is everything.”

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T-I-M-E: Every kid’s love language. (part 1)

by Jen Galley Discipleship, To Think About, What Kids Need

Last night at church was a perfect reminder to me that kids need our time.

Our midweek service went well.

We had:

  • A great praise and worship time.
  • Fun large group game time. The kids loved it.
  • A home-run lesson. The kids seemed to really understand and “get” what we were teaching.

Only one thing was a little off. One of our small group leaders was out of town on business, so I had to fill in to lead his small group. No big deal. The night was running smoothly with quick transitions. Everyone was having fun. Everyone except one 4th grade girl. On my way to lead the 2nd-3rd grade small group, she stopped me in my tracks and with a serious tone said, “Jen, can I ask you a personal question? Can we sit down for a minute to talk?” I could tell something was really bugging her, but I really didn’t have any time to give at that moment. I responded by saying, “Yes, but would it be okay to talk about it right after small group?” I was in a rush and I had to get to my group of kids. With my words, I showed that I care, but my actions showed that I was way too busy for her. Long story short, with the way that the evening turned out, I was not able to connect with her at the end of the night. I’ve been attempting to follow up with her today. God is showing me again and again that ministry is about people. Not about having the “perfect program”.

Time is every kid’s love language. Quality and quantity. It says, “I care about you.” “I’m listening to you.” “You are important to me.” “I know you’re having a problem, and I can pray for you… right now.” And when kids know that we care, it opens doors for us to lead them closer to Jesus.

How many opportunities have I missed?

Today, I am asking myself these questions:

  1. Do we have any free space built into our ministry to connect with kids? If not during services, when?
  2. Do we have enough leaders to effectively disciple kids? Do we have a good back-up plan?
  3. Are we being good stewards of kids’ questions and personal stories- even when it doesn’t flow with our lesson?
  4. Is our follow-up intentional?
  5. What can we do to maximize our time with kids to show them that we love them- and, more importantly, that Jesus loves them?
  6. How is your church doing in these areas?

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Kids Need Work (#3 of 48)

by Mark Steiner What Kids Need

Continuing the series on What Kids Need that an intentional discipler will address. When you consider the many aspects of a child’s development, it can become overwhelming. Let me suggest you focus on one at a time. Perhaps even this week you can find a way to focus on the fact that Kids Need Work.

The Situation: Children ask, “Why work so hard?“ Some kids question the value of hard work. Many adopt the attitude that work should be avoided as something evil. Peers make fun of students who put forth their best efforts. They ridicule or trivialize exceptional performances.

The Solution: From the very beginning, God gave Adam a job—to cultivate the Garden (Genesis 2:15). Work is a gift from God and can be a source of satisfaction and joy. God gives skills to each person and wants us to develop those abilities to serve Him and others. God created work; He blesses those who show diligence in their work.

The Scripture: Ecclesiastes 2:24-25; Colossians 3:23-24

The Suggestions: Maintain a positive attitude about work. Help children view work as a divinely appointed task for God’s eternal glory (Revelation 14:13). As you assign chores and give children responsibilities, encourage them to work hard. Work is honorable. Almost nothing of lasting value comes easy or free.

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Kids Need Family (#2 of 48)

by Mark Steiner Discipleship, Family, What Kids Need

Continuing the series on What Kids Need that a intentional discipler will address. When you consider the many aspects of a child’s development, it can become overwhelming. Let me suggest you focus on one at a time. Perhaps even this week you can find a way to focus on the fact that Kids Need Family.

The Situation: Children wonder, “What is a ‘family?’” Tragic testimonials and sobering statistics document the traditional family’s fragmentation. Kids are bewildered by today’s widely divergent family configurations and lifestyles.

The Solution: Remember that the family is God’s idea, a vital part of His kingdom plan. God establishes and endorses the family as a fortress to withstand the world’s hostile influences. God calls Himself “Father”—the One who leads His children. The Bible describes how to maintain healthy, dynamic relationships between husbands and wives, parents and children, grandparents and grandchildren.

The Scripture: Deuteronomy 6:4-9; Ephesians 5:33—6:4

The Suggestions: Work on generating family loyalty. Building this allegiance will promote family teamwork to withstand the world’s hurricane-force winds. Make home a priority; express sincere appreciation for each other; spend time together. What can you do THIS WEEK to show your family how important they are to you?

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Kids Need God (#1 of 48)

by Mark Steiner Discipleship, What Kids Need

If we are serious about discipling kids, we must clearly identify what it is we believe that children need in order to develop into fully mature disciples of Jesus Christ. Throughout the DiscipleLand curriculum we have identified 48 needs that we believe must be addressed for our children. But whether you use our materials or not – the reality is you must give careful attention to the spiritual needs of your children as a parent and as a teacher. None of these are addressed by accident.

On this blog I will be posting each of them with some scriptural support to encourage you to give some careful thought to how you can help address these needs in the kids that you love. Here is the first:

KIDS NEED GOD

The Situation: Children ask, “What is God really like?” Schools, friends, television, and other sources expose children to a variety of ideas. Much of what kids hear about “god” does not even resemble the God who reveals Himself in the Bible.

The Solution: God delights to reveal Himself to all who seek Him. Knowing God personally and enjoying His greatness is the highest privilege of every Christian. The Bible is the one inspired place to find out about God—His personality, His attributes, His Names, and His character.

The Suggestion: To know God truly and intimately, encourage your child to explore the characteristics of God. Look for His attributes in the natural world. Reflect on his character as seen through the lessons they are learning at church. Talk about God and often refer to Him. Give Him credit when good things happen, and turn to Him in times of needs expressing for your children to hear your trust in His goodness and love.

The Scriptures: 1 Chronicles 29:11; Proverbs 2:4-5; Acts 17:24-25

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